Chemistry of love - the psychology of love at first sight
What is love at first sight?
Many people have felt all of a sudden a strong crush on a person they literally saw the first time in life and knew little or nothing about. In the ancient times, this unusual romantic emotion felt for a totally stranger person along with the strong desire to posses sexually that person was known as "Cupid's love arrow ".Today ,we call this "chemistry" or " love at first sight ".
This phenomenon can happen equally to both sexes, males and females (sometimes two people of opposite sex may experience this at the same time), even to those who deny the possibility to be struck by this kind of "madness" , in their conception.
What happens when we fall in love?
According to most of researchers and anthropologists, a person falling in love at first sight experiences some chemical changes at brain's level, the so-called "cocktail of love", consisting of : higher level of dopamine, norepinephrine and vasopressin, plus lower level of serotonin.
The increased level of the first three chemicals is responsible for producing that intense level of excitement, energy, craving, addiction and loss of appetit, symptoms usually associated with the state of being passionately in love. The lower level of serotonin explains the obsessive preoccupation of lovers with each other in the first stage of love at first sight.
Unfortunately, the action of the chemicals responsible for the love feelings does not last for the whole life , after two -three -four years their activity decreases considerably and the persons involved in relationship are not feeling anymore the same passion as they have felt at the beginning . This is a critical stage in such 'love at first sight "relationships and if the bond is not strong enough to get over the difficult period, usually the relation ends at this level .
That explains why there are so many married couples who divorce only after three-four years of living together.
Why do we feel suddenly attracted by some persons?
The psychological concepts which explain why we can have a crush at first sight on certain type of persons and /or reject others, are anima ( which is the personification of feminine psychological tendencies within a man ) and animus (the personification of masculine psychological tendencies within a woman ) , two complexes introduced by psychologist C.G. Jung last century .
The anima is formed of those feminine qualities that are not recognized by a man as being his own (though they are, for instant these might be the tenderness, sensibility, need for cuddling, whatever )
So, he resolves the inner conflict within him by projecting that image onto a woman he sees as having those qualities and, thus, feeling an instant powerful attraction for her.
In the same way is formed and projected the animus, the woman feeling a compelling attraction to the man she projects her own animus image.
In simple words, there are our own hidden qualities that make us to feel attracted by the person we suddenly have felt love at first sight, qualities that we recognize intuitively at the unconscious level in the opposite sex.
A man who displays signs of virility , power , courage ,independence will be attracted by a woman who is exactly the opposite ,that meaning a weak, fearing ,dependent one, and the one who displays qualities like sensibility, weakness, excessive manners , politeness etc. will be attracted by strong, independent, assertive women.
This principle was spotted in a simple way by popular wisdom in the saying "the opposites attract. "
Conclusions
Love at first sight means more than physical chemistry, it is a strong spiritual connection with the other at a deeper level than we are able to realize using common senses. Although there is a real possibility that the love at first sight might not last for longtime ,two mature partners who are not addicted to those intense feelings that comes in the early stage of the romantic attraction and know how to be creative and rekindle the flames of love from time to time, might manage to take the relationship to a deeper level and remain attached to each other for a lifetime.
love is real and people believe in reality. so love is a real stuff that people must believe in.
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love is something that catches you unawares,makes u do things you never planned for,infact love is the best thing any individual can have...
the day I found the special one, i found peace, love, trust, and caring becomes my altitude.
Love is strong and powerful. I agree with the Writer. Lets love one another............
yes sweet heart when ithink about you everyday ifall think then try to understand me in what ever/in means
all from your sweet heart micheal.
Love is the force or the power that can turn your enemy into friend (i mean love is all about attraction
is there any power stronger than LOVE? i haven't been able to find one? if u could, so help me out too!
it's good 2 love coz love cover all the motitude of sin.i love my heart.
my love is my life. your heart is my life. i love u Rubi.i miss u Rubi. i kiss u Rubi.
i love u my rubi sooooooooo....... much. i can't forget u. sooooooo u come to my heart immedeatly.
4 me d real love is spiritual love. n is a really intresting article.
love is how you value each other
That was a scintillating write..i enjoyed it so much.All i know is that love is a thing of the mind.
i just love that!
Thank you!
love is just like a cobwebs; unless it is sweep away. It provide wings to a broken flight. In fact, is speechless.
real love come after meried
i make a mistake,for falling in luv wth u samira.u drv me crzy bt i learnt alot abt girls....
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I learned many thing from this article. So im writing to her.
SUJATA ,whenever i b alone,i fel as u r sitting by my side,luking at me wid a glance n trying 2 say me sth.Everytime im lost in ur drms,trying 2 say pls hold me.
Every moments of my lyf r useless without u, pls come into my lyf bringing lots of luv n care to make my lyf full of greeneries, pls im waiting 4 u.
love aint love until u feeli it.
she just confessed to me yesterday how she felt wen we first met and that was exactly the way i felt.it really was LOVE at first sight n i just hope it never fades in 2 or 3 years time coz i really love her to my very core.
love is great
I love u jaan,more than my life,my soul...anything that i have.without u,i m no more so plz keep me alive .......forever.
We love each other very much but when we are together i can't control my self..
I lov her very so much and i m afraid of her, when she shout at me i feel it from my brain to my leg nd all part of my body will shock.nd then loose control..
I love Mousumi so much that i can think of nothing without her but she do not trust me. But i will continue loving her .....................
when i saw u first time i really felt in love with u.i think u will accept my propose.i love u soo muc sweety.love u my sweet heart
My sweet loving heart, i neva knew 4rm d beginning dat our love will be virile like this, anyway i thank u so much and i will keep loving u.
hey guys love is something which is great full in lfe
i love you sooooooo much til my life will gets over
I don't beleive in it cause it dies easily
Love is what you want it to be,any perspective will always be right.
love is speechless...
love is beyond our conciouse mind.
love is unknown things w/h comes over the persons only seen. adama university
Love is that feeling which can not be desribed by words but can be seen on a lover`s face when he take a look at his angel
i thoght that if you really love someone, you are willing to take risks, to fight for it and always belive that it gonna work out no matter what happens.. but how come that i couldn't do anything for it. i'm so weak that the only thing that i could do is to give up. And now, i used to belive that if you really love someone you would be willing to set him free.. so sad.=(
love is very supernatural ,getting inside u will find very difficult 2 get out of it.
I think lov is a very special feeling that one had 4 their lov 1 and it is that respect care n lov which we had 4 our luv 1 without any selfishnees
even tru luv can beat friendship:):)
hey friends i dont know what is love but i like one girl very much and i just love her eyes she is just amazing and i just want to see her but i m not able to see her .. n i like her since 4 to 5 years but she even dont have intrest to be my friend n if this all this thing is mean love and i love her
I love my Sweeto very much I know love is very beautiful He give me the name babo I love him very much plz all pray that we get marry soon as soon.....
The two genders both fall n lov for one another becoz each OTHER possesses certain featurs which d OTHER do nt hav bt which they both want to share TOGETHER!
Love is holding what attract you to d person u admire
you define love as a superficial feeling, i wonder if love really is kind of destiny? don't you think that love is what we choose? you make your own decisions so it isnt destiny after all. and love doesnt have to do with sex if it does then its lust.
love isnt perfect and it aint blind.
people thinks that love is blind because we accept our partners weaknesses and to that they think we're blinded by the thought of loving. which we aren't.
i define love as acceptance.
What i feel for love might be differ from your.All is still under d cloth of love
Love does not turn u into madness.love is perfects
love is chemistry but at the same time its destiny that gives single for love. love is not just at firstside it depends on person to person either he wants to make that love at first side or continue till the end of his breath.
Love is to think about someone more times in a day than you think about your self.
Love is jst controlling ur self,because u can think that thisome is beautful or handsome than my partner.Love is part of life of humanbing,animals and insects.
i have one boy in mind,he oso like me,but i scared he one day leave me!
true luv is really enjoyable
Love is gorgeous
so well said...
Of all human desired love is the most reasonable, cos love embelish all riches and give them qualities of endurance.
love is simple when i see and become amiably speechless... but she feel what am saying in silence
Love will never be finished. love wil god gifted. my love to RUMMAN will remain forever after death.
love nowadays is different cos for some time now, the youth of our days only think love is all about sex
real love is a feeling that can never be shown or talked about it...it's a link between two different bodies in one soul
LOVE is a link between two heart,one is male's and another is female's. it may be same age or different age.
defination of love got chagend nowadays.Once u start expecting anything means love gone or not there.
It's very educative
Love is the soul of passion to which every one engage
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hey, whatz up, love is smth that we cant avoid but we should learn to respect our feeling so as to giv to those who disorve to be in our heart.
Love is unimaginably beautiful when you are able to share every feeling you have,every wonder and truthfully loving ur partner. is about sharing and giving what you can. No star can compete with that.
Love is the concentration and the intensive focus of mutual dafinating on a single individual,love as union,love as robust concern,love as valuing and love as an emotion.
love is a mixture of sex and emotion without each other its shitt.... believe it dosto
True love is when you see who we love for who they are,not seeing the reflection of our image in them cos it might disappoint someday.
the site is very educative to us especially youths who strongly blv on love at first sight.surely love is not sex.
without love we can come to the world so with love all things all pasible
love hurts
love is something what every1 wants some get,some can't hold, and some always remain thirsty.
love is sweet when u a loved and able to xpress ur feelngs to the loved one.
Sincere luv is what matters;not the first sight-love.But thanks anyway for that good elaboration.kudos.
love is like part of life and heart of life shareing feelings and happy moment and enjoy without marriage so love and enjoy in life is called love
LOVE - a blessing to mankind.
Only those people who have truly loved someone can understand its true essence.
Love is said 2 b an emotional feelings u express 2 pple.
the explanation is a great libration from confusion.pls keep it up.bless u
i do agree with guys love is something that u feel deep inside.and the bad thing is you can not even explain the feeling cause is so deep.
luv is a challenge meet it.luv is a name n sex is a game so 4get d name n play d game.
i agree with angela love is a strong felt that must be natured. sex is very far from love.
True love is like ghosts, which everybody talks about and few have seen.
i agree with u, love is something u can not do without in this life, bcos loneliness kill faster than anything.
mmmmmmm... there's true luv, but girls becareful of fake lovers. I love Chemistry of love its enlighten me more about love.
love is life so live having a good love
Creativity from time to time leads to lifetime luv
Love is a wonderful feeln wich every1 shud hav in deir lyf..no1 cn live their lyf vtout luvn a persn..SO LUV N LIVE LONG LYF HAPPILY...
love is beautifull
love is life,
love is god gift for you.
so, love everyone.
no end is love....truly
love is wanting to always see that person,hold ,kiss and just eb with him or her every singel day of your life you just dont wana letgo.
i need true love!
its educative keep it up.
hum... there is a lot to say but am short of words. This section is really powerful and it changes the destiny of love in the life of many people.
you will always be in my heart..Dreaming of our times together in our own worlds..I love you and im sure you love me.
love is having a strong affection for someone or person experiencing some chemical changes at brains level for the opposite sex.So love can never be forced on some one if he or she does not have that strong affection.
i have leant alot about lov and i lv ths site.
watever b chemistry love or ture love.u so should trust up on relationship coz when u trust up on sum 1 there is hope loving n caring each other,dat's y u r rite here with sum1else.
yea its true wat is been written i do agree its feeling of two true luving hearts i really lyked the way its expressed bout luv in this site.
i lyked d luv msgs on dis site its realy gud
i agree with the writer. what i've experienced in life is that u love and a person who claimed 2 luv u just leave u like that 4 reasons unknown 2 u. why does luv do that and i find that hard 2 deal with. i pray that 1 day i get my own love that won't leave or hurt me. or at least state their reasons why they can't be with u anymore
The writer is quite correct only that
i have learned more abt lv
sometimes or very often, you pass a strager of an opposite sex and suddenly you feel attracted. As you try to look at her, behind you, she does the same thing. That is chemisty of love hence love at first site.
love keep's on coming, n matter how hard you try to avoid it, it will come, the only issue here is how your going to handle it, are you willing to fall out of it? can you handle the truth that every thing in this world is not permanent? there are a lot of things that going to come when your in love, my final question is, when am i going to be ready to face all this, i really wanted to be strong, because i cant cope with such a situation like this,...
Love is indeed a great feelings and also, it is spiritual but teenagers and youth of 2day misinterprete infatuation 4 luv.i really luv dis site it is educative.keep it up
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truly i enjoy the precious love sms and realy i do love them.keep it up..
i love these site.
there is no amount of money that can buy true luv.
Hi, interest post. I'll write you later about few questions!
Beyond everything that has been said love is spiritual and must NOT be confused with sex,cos that is just a mere "biology"
love is a strong felt that must be nutured. sex is very far from love. u can pay to have sex but money can not true and sincere love
2day i've known tha difference between true luv, normal luv n sex. True luv does not equal sex.
Manze 2 day i ve known that luv does not equal sex.Siamini
I have really knw more about luv
I personally agree with writer.
I agree with bhumi, it is kind of destiny also.
love is chemistry but at the same time its destiny that gives single for love. love is not just at firstside it depends on person to person either he wants to make that love at first side or continue till the end of his breath.