Finding the perfect match
At the entrance of the Temple Apollo of Delphi, there was written a wise aphorism "Know yourselves" (which later became famous all over the world ), that meaning one should take some time to get to find the truth about himself clarifying what are his weaknesses and strengths, qualities and defects, talents etc...in other words, self awareness.
Getting to know yourselves is a tough process but is worth the time since the hardest part in finding the ideal match for you is not looking for and conquering the perfect mate but knowing what exactly you are looking for, whatever will make you happy.
Once you will learn to accept your weaknesses and defects, you will have a more clearly idea about what traits your perfect match needs to have. For instant, if you have discovered about yourselves you are not a tidy and laborious girl you should better start looking for a man who does not look for a housekeeper in his life, otherwise you will be in conflict all the time.
If you accepted you don't like to socialize that much and prefer to avoid crowded places, don't stop to that full of versatility entertaining girl who seems to like meeting new people more than a butterfly to dance from flower to flower. I bet you got the idea!
After discovering yourselves move to the next step and clarify your vision of what kind of relationship would you like to settle for?
There are many types of relationships but they all have in common fulfilling each other the real needs.
If you prefer a validation relationship (that means you seek validation of your physical qualities, or social status or intellect or any other thing you consider important for you) you must have in mind that this type is kind of insecure relation. You will always wonder if he or she still appreciates you. The risk is that you or your partner may want at some point something deeper than that. If both of you have this desire at the same time, then is ok the relation will be improved but if only one of you wants that change, the other will feel betrayed.
Relationships based on acceptance, trust, mutual respect, open communication, support giving you the opportunity of being yourselves without fearing your partner will lose interest in you and are a much better option.
Healing relationships occur after a period of loss, depression, stress, mourning, that is why both partners seek tenderness, unconditional love and care.
The next step after discovering yourselves and of what type of relationship do you want is to finally start to search for the perfect mate for you. Get out of your house, family and circle of friends and start visiting places where chances to find persons who share the same interests as yours are higher. If you love to scuba dive and want to share this hobby with your mate, go to diving clubs, if you like to intellectual conversations go to the university and be friend many of opposite sex persons, if you like to dance go to dance classes.
In addition to this, keep telling to others what are you looking for, statistics show many couples have met themselves through persons known by at least one of them.
Sometimes, you may need to date several persons before finding that 'right "one for you so when you go to a date, choose to activities you prefer and observe your date reaction, especially nonverbal language, the body language being more accurate than the verbal one.
Planning the perfect date is an issue that should keep you preoccupied about. You put so much effort in finding your mate and you do not want to risk losing her or him because of a bad organized date.
The first date should be adapted to the type of relationship you want to develop and to your personality. Romantic places go well with melancholic temperaments and romantic relationships, while adventurous types may choose activities requiring a lot of adrenaline.
LOVE IS ABOUT UNDERSTANDING, CARE ,HONESTY RESPONBLE (QUALITIES OF AFAMILY)BUT IN RECENT CIRCUMSTANCES MOST LADIES PREFER STATUS OF DA PARTNER EN AM SORRY TO SAY SO
knowing who you are is real advise to who ever is finding his perfect match. It is nice and fantastic idea
luv is understanding and care
love is endurance and understanding.
LOVE S D MST BUTFUL THNG IN LFE . NVR HURT UR LOVE . LOVE SME1 TRULY OTHERWSE DNT.
love iz a sweet poison coated with chocolate.
It very beautiful to love someone that will appreciate it like my baby girl ADEKOMAYA OLUMIDE
love is the feelings that makes us happy, week, strong. Is depends upon ones feelings... and so on!!!!!!!!!!
Love is everything for lover
Love is the only thing dat can make u happy on earth. Witout love u wil b frustrated by d things of dis world...
I luv you guys...
With you guys i'm complete.
Luv sometime wicked & hot. But still it can still offer joy & creat happiness, comfort to the heart.
I don't regret of been falling in love ...
Love is beautiful;love is wicked.
love is just a big diamond. Love is like a blessing recieve from a lover of yours. Love my darling wife,ANIFAT
love is another name for happiness & peace. love is very importance to all!!!
love is a gentel smile upon the lips of beauty
love is nothing my thinking is saying it is waste of time nothing else
Love is a gift of life,the pleasure of happiness,the force of strength and the faith of sacrifice...
Without love what is life.
Love is life and life is love in addition love is beautiful.
love is nt a game or time pas ,,,,,,, its a god gift..if u cant lead ur life with out some one dat is called as "LOVE"
love is loving a person for who they are not for what u want them to be
wow i've learned from all you guys... thanks
love is the one who can fill the emptiness that is inside you,the one who can complete the missing piece of your life.. you can't live life to the fullest until you will not find this love...
Love is good for the nature,because when your inlove then care for those around you.
love is something u have 2 share with ur patner coz 2 make it alone cant work
LOVE MAKES LIFE BEAUTIFUL...TRUE LOVE IS FOREVER..
love is the gift of god to everyone
I think it is very effective to make a relation.
When u love u dnt hurt cous love s de gift 4rm god en god dnt hurt.
love is my life i never live without my love !
love is nothing make us funny make us cry so dont ever try it
love is something that controls us
my love is my life but it hurts me everytime
Oh LOVE !!!!what word is is durable ,precious,expensive,and important than you??people die for,kill for,try for,work for but still only still and few get hold on you ...this means you are the key of humans needs and food of the heart because we do cherish you and need you all the time in our daily live,work please,and our relationship but still only ,i mean only few have you ....so if you are there and sicking for this man "LOVE" then please be careful ,because love is few and only few once get them ...so be wise and think twice before you deal with him ....am kistford
love is magical......
LOVE can do everthing but let your mind overpower of your heart not the heart will overpower the mind.
it is a great advice but do we raally know which people are great our mate? people can pretend to be what they are not & they take advantage they see you lets say in library maybe more than once if he/she want to make a move they will start visiting library more just to score points after getting what they wanted you will see their true colours.I think if your soulmate is out there he/she will find you whereever you are.
its a feeling 4m inner heart towards some1. it may b happen 2 all due 2 sum attraction towards dem. when it happen hard 2 avoid it. if u fall in it u will experince.urself d true meaning of it.luv u aryan
i think love is kinda infinite desire to cherish it.......
love is a precious gift from god
love is the most precios give of GOD.....
true love is a feeling it can even change the rude mind of god.
love is everything
love is what you make it to feel like. if you want to enjoy it, you will.
love is like a disease when you are not with the mr.or miss right....
True love is like ghosts, which everybody talks about and few have seen.
its really hard 2 fight 4 sum1 that u know not worth fighting for...wish i cud find my "someone"...
love is great word in world
Last night I sent an angel 2 watch over u while u were sleeping but it came back early! So I asked it why? It said that angels don't watch over other angels
At the entrance of the Temple Apollo of Delphi, there was written a wise aphorism "Know yourselves" (which later became famous all over the world ), that meaning one should take some time to get to find the truth about himself clarifying what are his weaknesses and strengths, qualities and defects, talents etc...in other words, self awareness
Loving is great..
true love is always incomplete
true love is foreever
Getting to know yourselves is a tough process but is worth the time since the hardest part in finding the ideal match for you is not looking for and conquering the perfect mate but knowing what exactly you are looking for, whatever will make you happy
Last night I sent an angel 2 watch over u while u were sleeping but it came back early! So I asked it why? It said that angels don't watch over other angels!
realy very nice
its great advice
it will work
how I express my love and how could I convince to make lovee with me
its a beautiful piece of advice i just got here. its like the author is talking to me. i appreciate.